{"id":4721,"date":"2025-08-16T12:58:41","date_gmt":"2025-08-16T19:58:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.seekyourlove.com\/?p=4721"},"modified":"2025-08-16T12:58:41","modified_gmt":"2025-08-16T19:58:41","slug":"tracee-ellis-ross-reveals-barack-obama-didnt-stop-her-from-making-a-dating-mistake-failed-as-a-friend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.seekyourlove.com\/?p=4721","title":{"rendered":"Tracee Ellis Ross reveals Barack Obama didn\u2019t stop her from making a dating mistake: \u2018Failed as a friend\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"main\">\n<div>\n<div class=\"hydrate-root sc-10wlkbs-0\" data-component=\"SupportNSCNative\" data-loading=\"lazy\" data-theme-name=\"base\">\n<aside class=\"sc-hez36s-0 dFpFuY\">\n<div class=\"sc-hez36s-1 dmMyEN\">\n<h3 data-testid=\"support-nsc-title\" class=\"sc-hez36s-2 fXvmgM\">Your support helps us to tell the story<\/h3>\n<div class=\"sc-hez36s-8 juUDRT\">\n<div class=\"sc-hez36s-13 cqPbFA\">\n<div class=\"sc-aja53j-0 rAFIl sc-hez36s-16 jZSKtc\">\n<div class=\"sc-aja53j-6 PdmgT\">\n<div data-testid=\"dropdown-with-gradient-collapsed-content-container\" class=\"sc-aja53j-5 hJPJVF\">\n<div>\n<div data-testid=\"dropdown-with-gradient-collapsed-content\" class=\"sc-aja53j-4 lcJUSj\">\n<div>\n<div data-testid=\"support-nsc-collapsed-content-tablet\" class=\"sc-hez36s-7 laZbyn\">\n<p class=\"sc-1uza6dc-0 cKWiEj\">From reproductive rights to climate change to Big Tech, The Independent is on the ground when the story is developing. 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We believe quality journalism should be available to everyone, paid for by those who can afford it.<\/p>\n<p><strong class=\"sc-1uza6dc-1 huxBsk\">Your support makes all the difference.<\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><button class=\"sc-aja53j-1 dLkuvY sc-aja53j-7 eMEmGu\"><span data-testid=\"dropdown-with-gradient-dropdown-tablet\" class=\"sc-aja53j-3 dHXFkr\"><span data-action-type=\"Read more\" class=\"sc-aja53j-2 jrwZqm\">Read more<\/span><svg class=\"sc-eaj12q-0 hUgQwJ sc-culv3z-0 eifaJK sc-a5wy94-0 hyKPon\"><use href=\"#ee6613da15642019\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/button><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/aside>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>Tracee Ellis Ross has opened up about her friendship with the former president, Barack Obama. <\/p>\n<p>During an appearance on <em>Jimmy Kimmel Live<\/em> on Thursday, the <em>black-ish <\/em>alum revealed the former president foresaw one of her relationships not ending well but didn\u2019t give her a heads up about it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI broke up with someone, and I remember running into the former president, and he was like, \u2018I could have told you that,\u2019\u201d Ross told the talk show host. \u201cAnd I was like, \u2018Well, you failed as a friend!\u2019\u201d <\/p>\n<p>She continued to joke about how the former president should have spoken up sooner. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cLike, it was your job to say that before, you know what I mean? Nip it in the bud,\u201d Ross said.<\/p>\n<div class=\"sc-awdjp1-2 cbpRGD sc-awdjp1-3 image align-center\">\n<figure class=\"sc-1cbdeug-0 cXcwgU\">\n<div data-gallery-length=\"2\" class=\"sc-awdjp1-0 geLykb\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.the-independent.com\/2025\/08\/16\/18\/19\/MixCollage-16-Aug-2025-02-41-PM-7230.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/static.the-independent.com\/2025\/08\/16\/18\/19\/MixCollage-16-Aug-2025-02-41-PM-7230.jpg?quality=75&amp;width=320&amp;auto=webp 320w, https:\/\/static.the-independent.com\/2025\/08\/16\/18\/19\/MixCollage-16-Aug-2025-02-41-PM-7230.jpg?quality=75&amp;width=640&amp;auto=webp 640w\" loading=\"lazy\" alt=\"\u2018It was your job to say that before, you know what I mean?\u2019 Ross said about Obama\" class=\"sc-1mc30lb-0 ggpMaE inline-gallery-btn\"\/><\/p>\n<p><button class=\"sc-1uf4o3q-0 dkRtZs inline-gallery-btn\" id=\"trigger-autogallery-211797\"><span class=\"sc-1uf4o3q-1 hwVecx\">open image in gallery<\/span><\/button><\/p>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"sc-1cbdeug-1 sc-1cbdeug-3 bpFomM hgzWpY\">\u2018It was your job to say that before, you know what I mean?\u2019 Ross said about Obama<span class=\"sc-1cbdeug-7 CXMrn\"> <!-- -->(<!-- -->Getty Images<!-- -->)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>At another point during the interview, the <em>Girlfriends<\/em> actor said that in terms of her current dating situation, she tries to rely on her friends to find potential partners for her. But out of all of her friends, she has never asked the Obamas for assistance.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019ve never asked Michelle to set me up, which I think perhaps is dumb, and I need to get on that,\u201d Ross said. <\/p>\n<p>This isn\u2019t the first time the couple has been known to give relationship advice. Earlier this year, during an episode of Michelle\u2019s<em> IMO<\/em> podcast with her brother, Craig Robinson, the two spoke with the CEO of Airbnb, Brian Chesky, in May, about how he built his business from the ground up, including the mentorship he received from the former president along the way.<\/p>\n<p>Over the years, Chesky and Barack became close enough that they started discussing their personal lives, like the unsuccessful dates the CEO was going on.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOne time I was like \u2014 I met somebody and I was about to go on a date with \u2014 I went on a date with them and I remember telling him like, \u2018Oh my God, she checks all the boxes and like this, this, this, this, this,\u2019\u201d he told Michelle and Robinson. \u201cAnd I remember him saying something. He said, \u2018it&#8217;s not a checklist.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"sc-awdjp1-2 cbpRGD sc-awdjp1-3 image align-center\">\n<figure class=\"sc-1cbdeug-0 cXcwgU\">\n<div data-gallery-length=\"2\" class=\"sc-awdjp1-0 gurzSb\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.the-independent.com\/2025\/05\/09\/13\/14\/GettyImages-114673880.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/static.the-independent.com\/2025\/05\/09\/13\/14\/GettyImages-114673880.jpg?quality=75&amp;width=320&amp;auto=webp 320w, https:\/\/static.the-independent.com\/2025\/05\/09\/13\/14\/GettyImages-114673880.jpg?quality=75&amp;width=640&amp;auto=webp 640w\" loading=\"lazy\" alt=\"U.S. President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama arrive at an event together on May 25, 2011 in London, England.\" class=\"sc-1mc30lb-0 ggpMaE inline-gallery-btn\"\/><\/p>\n<p><button class=\"sc-1uf4o3q-0 dkRtZs inline-gallery-btn\" id=\"trigger-autogallery-211798\"><span class=\"sc-1uf4o3q-1 hwVecx\">open image in gallery<\/span><\/button><\/p>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"sc-1cbdeug-1 sc-1cbdeug-3 bpFomM hgzWpY\">U.S. President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama arrive at an event together on May 25, 2011 in London, England.<span class=\"sc-1cbdeug-7 CXMrn\"> <!-- -->(<!-- -->Getty<!-- -->)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>Chesky explained that he never considered that he had adopted this mindset until after Barack pointed out what he should really be looking for in a long-term partner.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe&#8217;s like, the right person is someone where they&#8217;ve got this weird laugh or snort and you find it really funny,\u201d he continued. \u201cAnd it&#8217;s like, in other words, it&#8217;s not necessarily what you think you&#8217;re looking for. And you&#8217;re not dating a checklist, you&#8217;re dating a real person. And the real person makes you feel a certain way.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI think it was like a really, really important piece of advice,\u201d he added.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Your support helps us to tell the story From reproductive rights to climate change to Big Tech, The Independent is on the ground when the story is developing. Whether it&#8217;s investigating the financials of Elon Musk&#8217;s pro-Trump PAC or producing our latest documentary, &#8216;The A Word&#8217;, which shines a light on the American women fighting for reproductive rights, we know how important it is to parse out the facts from the messaging. At such a critical moment in US history, we need reporters on the ground. Your donation allows us to keep sending journalists to speak to both sides of the story. The Independent is trusted by Americans across the entire political spectrum. And unlike many other quality news outlets, we choose not to lock Americans out of our reporting and analysis with paywalls. We believe quality journalism should be available to everyone, paid for by those who can afford it. Your support makes all the difference. Read more Tracee Ellis Ross has opened up about her friendship with the former president, Barack Obama. During an appearance on Jimmy Kimmel Live on Thursday, the black-ish alum revealed the former president foresaw one of her relationships not ending well but didn\u2019t give her a heads up about it. \u201cI broke up with someone, and I remember running into the former president, and he was like, \u2018I could have told you that,\u2019\u201d Ross told the talk show host. \u201cAnd I was like, \u2018Well, you failed as a friend!\u2019\u201d She continued to joke about how the former president should have spoken up sooner. \u201cLike, it was your job to say that before, you know what I mean? Nip it in the bud,\u201d Ross said. open image in gallery \u2018It was your job to say that before, you know what I mean?\u2019 Ross said about Obama (Getty Images) At another point during the interview, the Girlfriends actor said that in terms of her current dating situation, she tries to rely on her friends to find potential partners for her. 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